Thursday, November 3, 2011


So my thoughts have turned a lot to India the last couple of months because of looking into the surrogacy...

Although ideally, I'd be able to find an American who would be able to do the surrogacy for me (in exchange for money or some other arrangement) right now it doesn't appear to be likely that this will happen...

I have been reading online and they are stating that it sometimes takes WEEKS to be able to bring the baby home from India. Now, those articles are from 2006 and 2007 and since then, things have become more stream-lined in that regard. I am going to try to find a local couple who has done the Indian surrogacy as a means to find out from them what was their process.

Its definitely not an easy process but then again, growing a uterus would be much much harder. :)

I still don't know how my family will react to this. I actually kind of planned on not telling them until the surrogate was actually pregnant since they'd probably try to talk me out of it. Once the baby was born and in my home, I'm SURE my parents will be excited. Even though it might not seem real to them initially. I actually thought it would be great to have my mom come with me to pick the baby up but she gets freaked out by international travel. She's weird.

However, I would really really love to have my family involved in this process. Its almost like coming out to my parents all over again even though this is about a BABY which should be a joyous occasion. So kind of weird I'm scared to talk to them about it.

In other news, I'm not making quite as much money as I was hoping with take-home pay as I'd originally thought I'd be making with my current job. So paying off student loans will be harder and longer than planned. Which means baby making will be prolonged.

There's still hope I'll get this other job which will pay better and have benefits so I'm crossing my fingers and toes it'll work out sooner than later.


Beck said...

Adoption from India is difficult but possible. It was much, much easier 20 years ago. Indian children are incredibly beautiful and wonderful... Believe me I know, 4 times over!!

I have no experience with surrogacy, but wishing you tons of good vibes and hope this works out for you.

Post-It Boy said...

I've not considered adopting from India as it is essentially the same costs now as having a surrogate there! Crazy, but true... international adoptions are very expensive.

I've been looking into some agencies with egg donors from northern India where they are lighter-skinned and mixed many times with Asian (Chinese---I know Indians are Asians too!) ancestry. I think it would be very exotic.