Tuesday, September 25, 2012

Lack of support...?

In the last few weeks, I've had two African Americans tell me they are not supportive of my adoption plans completely. One is morally against my providing goods\help\medicine to the orphanage. The other isn't quite clear as to her reasons behind it.

I have to wonder if part of the reasons why there is a lack of support is due to my race. I don't know if this is true, but it seems to be a common theme brought up amongst people who don't support me. Is my light skin a deterrent from being able to love a dark-skinned child? Is there a reason why a white person is not as capable of raising a child of another race? Or is it better to be raised by one's own race?

I don't understand that concept. To me, I am helping a child regardless of his race.

Luckily for them, I don't need their support to continue my plans.


Dean Scott said...

I have seen some comments in which people of different races or ethnicities object to adoptions by whites on the basis of cultural heritage. I have two friends who adopted children of other races. One adopted a boy and a girl from India. They lived in a progressive area and have had happy, successful lives. The other was a white couple who adopted four black children. Two of the children are fine with their white parents. The other two feel they lost their culture by being raised in a white home. They acknowledge, however, that their adoptive parents love them and that their lives are better being adopted than if they had been in foster care. Best wishes as you move forward with your adoption.

Dean Scott said...

I forgot to include that I saw the comments when I was thinking about adopting a child from India.

Post-It Boy said...

I can understand some people's apprehension. However, I think that with my background, it should be clear that embracing my Congolese child's heritage will be that I will consider myself Congolese as much as I would want him to see him as a mix of English, Swedish, and German heritage. Since we'd be combining those heritages into one family.