Thursday, January 3, 2013

Biological vs. Adoptive

Does it really matter in the long run about blood?

I've had a friend pose some interesting thoughts to me about this. He said that flesh and blood is a stronger bond than adoption. I supposed there is some logic to it. He brought up a friend of his who has only been able to adopt---citing that they experienced a void.

What he said makes sense. However, in this situation, I am CHOOSING adoption rather than it being forced on me through infertility. My only infertility issue is that I don't want to have sex with a woman's body. lol. As far as I know, my sperm is functional and would be able to fertilize an egg.

Does blood matter? Yes, it can. To some people.
Does blood make a difference? Yes. To some people.

Is it possible to love an adopted child more or less? Yes. In my case, as I don't have any options, I think loving an adopted child makes sense. I am choosing it. It is my personal choice. So in my case, blood is nice but an adopted child will be just as much loved as if I had a child born to me naturally which contained my genetics.

3 comments:

Unknown said...

The bond between my adopted son and me is considerably stronger than the non-existant bond between my dad and the father who abandoned him.

Unknown said...

don't believe you would love any child more than another no matter the process behind getting them - just the love will be different.

it will be different because our personalities are all different.

Unknown said...

I think in the situation your friend brought up, there could be a void as there would be a feeling of loss, they can't create a child. That does not mean that the love the adopted child less or the bond is less. I think it is 2 separate issues. Just my thoughts though.

I have children of my own. I had my friends kids during the day and then for a few whole days and nights when she had a baby. Our family loves those kids. If, though it isn't even a possibility, we got those kids all the time. We would love them just as much as those that came to us biologically!